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Nowadays,
we have heard so many bad news about sexual abuse to women and girls around the
world. It's make me very upset. Most of the victims are young and very little
girls which have to go through to their entire life with sadness and
embarrassment. Psychologically, they were felt like trash and very bad person
and having hard time to enjoy their own life as before. The most important
things in their life was tragically stolen and it will never come back until the
end of the world. Unfortunately, the society always believe that "the
girl who was victim also the sinner" and the guy who was the criminal
never judge as the bad one and sentenced by the law.
Honestly, I had experienced
something like sexual harassment trial. It was happened years ago when I love
to traveled to my hometown with night bus. It was not kind of rape (It's to
scary and I can't imagine something like that happen to me!), but very annoyed
and make so scared. So, if you feel something like when a stranger come to you
or try to sit near you (definitely a man) and he tried to touched your body or
even your skin without your approval: it is sexual harassment for sure! So you
have to secure yourself and definitely not became a victim! You have never give
that kind of guy an opportunity to abuse you or even make you look like a weak
girl.
So, in order to educate myself and my blog reader, I write this article. I want to contribute to every effort that the sexual harassment's defender in the world have been doing to protecting girls and young women from sexual assault. So, I summarize them to some ways that we have to know about how to against sexual abuse.
1. Educate Yourself:
everyone have to improve their awareness about "what is sexual abuse
means?" and break the myth that the sexual violence done by a stranger.
The fact shows that nearly 90% sexual assault criminal was the close one such
as family member, friend, boyfriend and even someone we know so well. For
example, in US a data shows that 1 of 10 child
sexually abused by the age of 18 by someone they know. So, be
careful and don't forget to share your knowledge about this issue with your
family, friend, colleague and as much as women you can meet and talk
with.
2. Don't Fun Sexism: have you ever laugh when your friend told you a story about sexual abuse, prostitute girl or even a rape cases? make sure that you never make the other women misfortune as joke! sexual abuse and rape aren't funny! it was high crime that have to handle by state law and social sanction. If you find someone make a joke to thing like that, try to explain to them that the real issue is dramatically impacts to the people's lives. And, don't try to buy and consume things like magazine, newspaper, movies or website that portray women or men in sexually degrading ways.
3. Minimize the Opportunity: we have to create our own save
situation and never isolated from people, because more than 80% of sexual abuse cases occur in isolated,
one-on-one situations. Especially that happens to kids. Even when we are during
traveling, alone our with our group, we have to recognize the possibility of
sexual assault. We can't trust people easy and have to aware for ourselves and
for other girls. We also have to recognize the sign from people behavior that physically
shows the symptom like redness, rashes/swelling in the genital area,
urinary tract infections and other. Or bu emotional signal such as depression,
unexplained anger and rebellion. In short, don't create an opportunity to make
people sexually abused you.
4. Volunteering your time: for this issue silent is the worst option. We have to support and help men and women who working to end sexual harassment in some ways like volunteering, donating money, or lobbying the government to make good policy regarding the issue. And challenges any images of violence against women in advertising, pornography, professional wrestling, and other forms of media. And do not participate in sexist behavior by objectifying or stereotyping women.
5. Selective Dating: yeah, dating is not only about when a man and woman
making a relationship based on love. We have to aware and avoid men who shows
the characteristic of potential rapist. These include men who espouse
violence, who demean and control women, and who are obsessed with guns, drugs
and alcohol. Make sure your relationship is healthy and both of you can talk
freely about the issue to understand each other view about sexual abuse between
lover. Just be a good girl and dating smart and
be aware with every sign from your partner because sometime the unlucky things
can happen without notice.
6. Support and Speak up for Survivors: we have to support the victim of sexual abuse to get the fair threat from the society and the state law. We have to help them arise from their sorrow and shame to be a strong one, to explained to the society that the victim is not the sinner. Like other criminal case, the rapist is the criminal and the one have to felt sorrow and shame in their entire life. This is the great deal about the issue.
7. Report to an Authority: we have to making a report of our discovery immediately to an authority in our area related the sexual abuse. We might have such suspicion of sexual abuse means you've seen signs in a kid or a young girl, or you've witnessed boundary violations by adults or other youth toward them. We can report the case to an authority or agency that handle report of abuse. React responsibility and do not breaking the rules that embarrassed the victim.
8. Avoid Child Marriage:
in some sick society men can control their own marriage will with very young
girls. And I feel very sorry that so many stupid men in Islamic society used to
name of Aisha (one of the Prophet Muhammad's wives) to marry a little girl and
take the greedy idea a sunnah (something like recommended). This crazy sexual
abuse practice under marriage happened in poor and uneducated society who make
"Islam" as scapegoat without knowing the fact that Aisha married
Muhammad at 22 or 24 years old (not 9 years old). So, we have to help the girls
who came from poor and uneducated family to secure themselves from child
marriage.
There are some ways to avoid this abuse such as educate and empower
girls and their parents to support their young girl to improve their knowledge
and skill and give them opportunity to enjoy their youth. Also, we help to
mobilize religious leader and community elders to avoid this marriage, and
pressure the local government to produce a policy to against this child
marriage. And the important thing is to provide relevant economic support to help
the family raise their girls well and never sold them as payment of their debt.
An you can learn the detail ways here in The Pixel Project.
Just be aware with our surrounding and never silent for this issue!
Depok, 17 October 2015
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